Why is having a belief in your abilities vital to your survival? When you feel as though you are not capable of a challenge or that you cannot succeed. When you start to doubt your abilities it can be detrimental to your well being. There are those who have the innate gift of knowing that perhaps they can achieve anything they set their mind to. There are also those that have always been given those positive affirmations that have helped them to have belief in ones self. Some have not had either of those contributions and because of that self doubt have probably missed out on achieving certain goals.
Don’t despair all of you out there that lack that confidence, it is never too late to learn and to attain that vital trait of self belief. These following techniques can help you to have more faith in yourself:
Firstly, you need to take time to take a look at yourself; I am speaking metaphorically of course. Are you someone that does not give yourself credit when it is deserved? Don’t be afraid to pat yourself on the back or to accept that you have done something that is good and worthwhile. It is not conceit to accept that you have accomplished something well. Limiting yourself by not giving yourself credit where credit is due is detrimental to your potential.
Secondly, failing is not a bad word. You have to be limitless to be successful, this means that if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. It is ok to not get it right the first time, the more attempts you may have to make give you that improvement every time. Each time you become better and this should boost your self belief.
Thirdly, there is no benefit to criticizing yourself and your abilities. You have to take a moment to look within and ask yourself where the negative perception comes from. Evaluate these inner feelings and learn to work through them.
Do I feel negative about myself because of past experiences?
Can I validate my critical outlook of myself? Most likely no one can.
This outlook of myself maybe negative but I can work on focusing on the positive me?
The most valuable of these methods is this fourth one; learn to trust and to love yourself. Designate one month of treating yourself with kindness, loving thoughts and positive affirmations. Give yourself the support you deserve and also accept the same from others that are giving that to you.
All things need practice to perfect. When you lend your kindness and express those positive words to others it is easy for you right? Well coach yourself to make it easy to do the same for you. Train as though you would for a marathon, the marathon of believing in what you have to offer.
We have been given the ability to learn and to be taught so apply these behaviors as well. Start to act as though you have that self confidence and soon it will become second nature. If you are not sure how to do this, you can always start to observe how those who do have these traits behave. Start to emulate those you admire, observe how they are able to exude confidence and learn to do the same for yourself.
Lastly, no one is completely without accomplishments it makes no difference whether they are great or small. Take the time to list all the impressive things you have done in your life. If you have difficulties with this, ask a mate. Remember, this is why we have friends; it is because they have admired something in us, just as we admire them.
Don’t be under the misapprehension that self confidence is a matter of arrogance. Believing in yourself simply means that you know you can be capable of anything that you want to accomplish. Believing in you means you can be relied on because you know you can do whatever comes your way. There is nothing wrong with having weaknesses however; there is something negative in thinking you do not have the capacity to excel.
Wear your self beliefs proudly; don’t forget to pat yourself on the back often and remember to recognize your accomplishments and you can and will achieve everything you want to.