Being the perfectionist…….good or bad? Those who are will say there is no other way to be. On the other hand, those who are not find the perfectionist to be over bearing and rather annoying!
Most of the time the life of the perfectionist can be full of disappointments and more often then not dissatisfied outcomes result. Relationships can be negatively affected as well; the demand placed on those who cannot particularly relate is stressful.
Sometimes, the perfectionist can be so consumed with this idea for the need to have everything as only they can do it or in extreme cases, that perfect outcome can never be achieved.
There is nothing wrong with doing things to the best of your ability. There is also nothing wrong with being the type of individual that does things at a higher level of performance then what might be expected. There is however, a problem when it becomes all consuming and nothing is right.
These following tips will help the perfectionist to let go a little and give understanding to the idea that not being perfect is not a bad trait.
- Every so often, give yourself a break. Not everything has to be perfect; besides, the perfectionist usually does things above average even when they do not feel they have achieved the perfect outcome. Congratulate yourself, it is still a job well done!
- As I said above, the perfectionist can be over bearing. Give those around you a break as well. You can only control what you do, that person that does not do as well as you do in your eyes does not make them a failure. Give praise regardless of whether something is not to your standards.
- Variety is the spice of life! People do things differently; art, acting, dancing, music, the list is endless. Treat your perfectionism the same, as though it is one of the ways to do things, one part of a whole. Everyone’s contributions make the world go round. There is no fault in one person thinking something is good enough and to move on to the next thing.
- There is no benefit to over-emphasizing the negative. If you do not achieve the result you expected, let it go. There is no need to give relevance to the unwanted; it is what it is so leave it at that.
- Having a sense of humor releases all sorts of tensions. It can lighten any load and shift a negative mood. When an outcome is not perfect, laugh about it, and take away the seriousness. This action will help you to overcome a situation that did not have the result you expected.
- Mistakes are not fatal. When there is a moment that does not go your way and you, the perfectionist feel as though all is lost remember, most mistakes can be corrected some how. Do not let your negative emotions take over to the point where you lack the capability to be proactive. Focus on another way to do what you need to accomplished and you will see that the result can be just as satisfactory.
- Never procrastinate to be perfect. Take on and complete any task that you are given. It can be difficult to start a project if you, the perfectionist, believe you will not be able to be at your best. Again, it is acceptable to make mistakes rather then to not attempt at all.
We all play a part in this role of life, but remember, being a perfectionist does not have to rule your life. When you learn to tread lightly, accept that not all things need to be perfect and that occasionally you will have to step back for a different result, you will also find a happiness that you have always deserved. Live freely and a peaceful life will flow.